Never fully trust a realtor.

Despite what they say, they’re probably not thinking with your desires 100% in their minds.  As a general rule of thumb, you should always know and question people’s intentions.  if they have no incentive to help you, they probably aren’t.  realtors make money from you.  They have a little motivation to make sure you have a good experience for you to throw referrals their way, but all in all, they’re not on the hook for anything.  They know you are going to buy a house.  If they’re selling a house, they know it will sell eventually if it’s reasonable.  The fact is, the more money the save you on the house, the less money they get, so their not going to work as hard as you’d like.

You’re considered family when you’re asked for help.  Think about it.  If you don’t feel comfortable asking someone for help, it’s probably because of a varying degree of either fearing their reaction, or not trusting them.  Neither are the traits that exist in a (healthy) family relationship.  It’s a form of flattery honestly.