Hall’s Rule of Social Order – #158
The more you apologize, the cheaper your apologies get. The world is plagued with what seems to be a responsibility to apologize when someone 1) doesn’t agree 2) is offended or 3) just doesn’t like what you said. That last one is the linchpin and probably what is causing the disease. It has become the social norm to just apologize and then every one can move on. The problem there is, a lot of people don’t deserve an apology. We’ve digressed to a society that thinks they’re owed an apology and we’re now at the point where we can’t progress because we’re too worried about what other people think.
The fact is, apologies are just words and words are stupid. If you think you should be apologized to, why don’t you care enough to actually get something of value?
Some related reading: http://www.nytimes.com/2012/03/22/opinion/please-stop-apologizing.html362 views